TNFG Weekly Chapter 8.5: Healing Broken Financial Relationships

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And to be honest, it’s kinda like free-styling off of one topic. Check out the last few chapters below:

Table of Contents

Chasing The Real You

When the archer misses the center of the target, he turns round and seeks for the cause of his failure in himself.
Confucius

Though our society covets money, more money merely highlights our innate selves. If were a terrible person before, with more money, you will be worst. At the same time, with more money, it doesn’t automatically make you better. Why? Because our true selves are often buried in trauma.

By age 4, our brains begin to categorize and analyze what we perceive as good and bad from those closest to us. Only through those people do we engage with the idea and the concept of money. As such, Money trauma starts early. From the first “No, you can’t have this or that”; we began forming money scripts. We can easily end up spending money because we rarely had access to it. Conversely, some become very cheap watching their parents struggle with money.

70% of Americans are one paycheck away from financial terror. The added stress almost always trigger past financial trauma from our childhood. In order to break the paycheck-to-debt-to-stress routine, we must first start tackle the issues that we all carry.

How to Quickly Find Your Financial Healing

Find Perspective: take note of where you are now, write down where you are going and really acknowledge the past damage in order to move fwd. It’s all about acceptance.

Make a Choice: Choose the people you keep in communication with. Keep the mindset that if people only make emotional withdraws from you, they are merely draining your mental space. Don’t let them live in you head rent free. Make the choice allow yourself to grow.

Understand Healthy Recognition: too many are stuck in the post for likes cycle. It’s an unhealthy approach to recognition and acceptance. Human beings were not mean to entertain millions of interactions weekly. It’s burning us out. Find real recognition in how you add value to your family, friends, and community first. You can still be an influencer however, if you are missing today for social happiness, you will likely struggle down the line alone.

Give it Time: Bad things don’t last forever. Let the wound heal. Cry if need be. Breathe deeply and love hard to understand that to love is to lose. But it doesn’t mean that you are lost or that you are a loser.

My Favorite Videos on the topic

What is Financial Therapy? How does it differ from Financial Coaching?

PRINCE OF EGYPT and Healing Broken Relationships

Most people fight with their siblings, but the conflicts between Moses and his siblings are pretty epic. But we can learn a few things about forgiveness, hatred, love, holding grudges, and healing broken relationships from the stories of Moses, Rameses, Miriam, and Aaron.

Licensed therapist Jonathan Decker and filmmaker Alan Seawright talk about the cinematic masterpiece The Prince of Egypt, and how even though we’re not fighting off plagues (well, we kinda are right now) or freeing an entire people from being enslaved, the relationships in this movie are very relatable and there’s a lot we can learn from them. Plus, the music and animation are absolutely gorgeous, and the cast is phenomenal.

Therapist Kati Morton On Managing Your Anxiety & Your Money

The Financial Confessions, therapist and YouTuber Kati Morton talks all things money and mental health, from common misconceptions of therapy, to ways to manage money anxiety, to talking to your loved ones about money problems.